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Ignoring Red Flags
I guess we’re all two people. One daylight, and the one we keep in shadow — Bruce Wayne @batman
Many of us fear ourselves. We fear our weakness. We fear our power. This “dark side” sets us up to not trust ourselves. Why? Because we’ve let ourselves down too often. We’ve hidden our weaknesses from others & deep down refuse to stop self-criticising ourselves….
However, if we venture to explore our dark side, we courageously go to the most feared area of our psyche. We experience parts of our personality that we wish would just disappear. But we know they won’t just vanish, leaving us frustrated & at odds with ourselves.
Accepting that we’re not perfect (nor should we aim to be), & that we’re not always happy, is OK. Hence, by embracing the things that “we are” but “don’t want to be”, we can learn to be OK with parts of ourselves that we’ve always disliked.
Further attention to the aspects of ourselves that we don’t like, will pave the way “to the other side”. This “journey” can take a while & isn’t a “destination” nor is it “linear” but a continuous “work in progress” educating ourselves about who we are in “actual terms”. If we allow ourselves this arena within which to accept & learn more about all aspects of “what we are”, we will no longer fear ourselves as much….
So, try it: explore all the facets of yourself that you don’t like, become comfortable with them & re-channel them to your advantage. After exploring the dark side of your personality, you learn that you’re not going to make it through life unblemished. You’re a person, imperfect & maybe even a bit twisted. If you do this, you can then work towards finding a way to let go of whatever you once had to prove about yourself to others….