My Vision

When my vision becomes blurred, I shall focus on words. When words become inadequate I shall respond with silence. Until a calm mind refocuses my view and realigns my words I shall navigate with patience —- unknown DA

Being in an environment that habitually betrays you, when your efforts consistently contribute over-&-above your “day job”, can blur your vision of what you’re worth. An ongoing lack of recognition in this manner is “abuse” & it’s common for people who tolerate abusive behaviour to eventually conclude that they deserve it: you come to expect betrayal as normal. But it is not & you don’t deserve that.

Upon becoming aware of such abuse, it’s important to not let a lack of confidence or a subservient approach to the people who are “senior” to you, scare you away from doing something about the situation you’re in. You must do whatever you can to protect yourself & keep their bad behaviour from -IVELY affecting your mindset & your work. Never compromise your standards, quality of your work, values that define you, nor dilute your +IVE intentions b/c of them.

Resist abusive behaviour by observing patterns of betrayal & interrupting them as much as possible, by CONTINUING TO UPHOLD YOUR BELIEFS: help & show respect to others, share ideas & give credit to people where it’s due = don’t let someone else’s -IVE actions make you behave badly, or else they win!

Silence & staying calm can also be powerful responses: both are very effective in the face of abuse, b/c they want you to become angry & react badly. But don’t. Controlling how you respond is your POWER, so use it to YOUR ADVANTAGE not theirs. However, don’t repress your -IVE emotions: write your feelings & thoughts down, talk to people you trust, workout or seek guidance from professionals, these are all healthy outlets as opposed to getting angry. Whichever way you feel is appropriate for you to manage your situation is at your discretion – you know best – so trust your instincts, navigate with patience, take time to think smart, but be brave enough to recognise that “normalising abusive treatment” is NOT what you deserve, accordingly, work towards GETTING OUT & MOVING ON!